Children are not born to be a spoiled person. Unfortunately, parents who are too impatient to make them become spoiled. Not surprisingly, nearly 95 percent of parents spoil their children.
The attitude of a spoiled child can grow, because the parents feel powerless to control the little guy. But according to child and adolescent psychologist Richard Bromfield, Ph.D., of Harvard Medical, there are 8 tips to take back control of you as a parent, as quoted from Shine.
1. Committed to not spoil the child. Make your husband and your husband as a leader in the home, so they will follow. So, not only you can follow the wishes of children, they also must be able to follow the wishes of parents.
2. Clear and unequivocal. Tell the kids about what you expect the obvious. For example, the stress on them to be self-cleaning own room and prepare all school purposes.
3. Do not 'bribe' children at home. Parents and children will pay the expensive habit of 'bribing' of this. These bad habits will continue to do when they grow up.
4. Avoid always make a deal. Show directly on them that not all aspects of life that they demanded an agreement, and could always be granted.
5. Be the boss. Does not mean you have to cruel. That is, the boss can understand, fun, leadership, and authority as a parent.
6. Notice how much you are shopping for the kids. Try to count, for one week how much money you spend to meet the wishes of children, including toys, books, school supplies, clothing, snacks, sports equipment, entertainment, music lessons, and so forth.
Try not to pamper them with material. In addition to learning is not spoiled, they will also learn about managing money.
7. Appreciate every effort better than the results. This can make a child believe in yourself so will be independent. Meanwhile, praise-praise given to the child, will not make them believe in themselves.
8. Spend time with children. For example, look for experiences and activities that do not cost much, like riding a bicycle, gardening, building a bird cage, assist on projects around the house. This method can also be a way for you and your children reduce the habit of spending time at the mall.
